KUKI IGITUBA CY’IKIBANO KIRYOHA?

guswera-igituba-ikibano

Abantu bakunze kuvuga ngo gusambana si byiza kuko umuntu aba yivunira ubusa, ngo ibituba ni bimwe.

Mbese byaba ari ukuri?


AMAZI Y’AMIBANO ARARYOHA

Akenshi abantu basambana atari uko babuze igitsina mu rugo. Gukora ibyabujijwe, kurya ku rubuto bakubujije kuryaho ni byo bituma wifuza uriya mukobwa, uriya mugore.

Gusambana akenshi babyita guhindura indyo. Ariko ahanini igishimisha abantu mu gusambana ni ugukora ishyano, biba muri roho zacu. Umwana akunze kwifuza gukora icyo yabujijwe.

Ibituba si bimwe.Soma amoko y’ibituba
-ntibiteye kimwe
-ntibiryoha kimwe
-hari ibinyara n’ibitanyara
ibikunnye
n’ibidakunnye
-ibinini n’ibito
-ibyagutse n’ibifunganye
-imishino y’amoko atandukanye
rugongo zinyuranye n’ibindi

Imboro nazo si zimwe

-hari indende n’ingufi
-hari izigenye n’izitagenye
-hari abagabo bashyukwa vuba n’abatinda gushyukwa

Usibye n’ibyo kandi abagore ntibakira abagabo kimwe.

-hari abakunda imboro bakanabyereka umuswezi
-bagafasha abagabo kubaswera
-bakabanyongera
-bagasoma abagabo
-bakikorakora kuri rugongo
-bakabwira abagabo ahabaryohera na position bakunda
-bagakora isuku y’umubiri wabo cyane cyane bagasukura igituba mbere na nyuma y’imibonano

Hari n’abandi bagore bagarama nk’umutumba ntibinyeganyeze umugabo akajya hejuru yegapfe yegapfe akarinda arangiza nta gikomye boshye uwenda umupfu(yewe mugore we,niba ukora ibyo urisenyera urugo. Niba utari ubizi,jijuka! Kuko umugabo uhura n’ibibazo nk’ibi umutima we uba uri ahandi)

Hari n’abagabo batekereza ko umugore ari igikinisho kimufasha kurangiza ibibazo bye. Yagera ku buriri agahita ahindukiza umugore nk’imashini ati”hindukira naragukoye”, ubwo akaba aramutangiye tiku tiku akaba ararangije agahita ahindukira asize anaganitse umugore mu kirere. Abagore kenshi ntibavuga ngo nabo bisabire, baremera bagapfira muri nyagasani ariko icyizakwereka ko umugore adashimishijwe n’ibyo umukorera ni uko azahora agushihura, wanamubaza ibintu byoroshye akabikomeza agahora akwiyenzaho. Jya ureba neza witegereze aba avugana amarenga n’uhigimye aba avuze.


GUSAMBANA BIRAHENDA

-Ugura umugore ntababarira umufuka kandi iyo ubwonko bwuzuyemo umushyukwe ntibuba bugitekereza. Amatwi arimo igituba ntiyumva! Urakifuza gusambana utanyoye, ariko iyo wanyweye uba ufite amashitani abiri akoshya: umushyukwe na alcool.Iyo umukobwa wifuza rero asa na bike n’isi yose wayimugurira! Uhita wibagirwa ko ufite responsabilite mu rugo n’abana bawe n’umugore wawe. Mana yanjye ni igitangaza.

Ugiye gusambana ushobora guhura n’igituba/imboro byiza cyangwa se n’umugore/umugabo beza cyangwa se bibi kurusha ibyo wari ufite. Kandi hari ubwo gusambana bishobora kukubera byiza kurusha ibyo wari ufite.

Impamvu yo kudasambana ni uko bihenze kandi nta muntu wabona ikiguzi cyabyo. Uti’urabeshya sha njye mfite cash” nyamara benshi yabaroshye mu mwobo!Kandi n’aho wasambana udatanze amafaranga,buri gihe ingaruka ntizoroshye.

Igituba ushobora kukigura ariko uzagura angahe

-guhangayika k’umugore/umugabo wawe amaze kubona ko nta gatima ukimufitiye
-nibagufatira k’umugore /umukobwa w’undi
-izo ndwara ugiye kuzana mu rugo

Baca umugani ngo

-umugabo utagira ubwoba ntaba agira ubwenge
-inzigo y’imboro ihozwa indi
-uruhahirwa na babiri iyo rutazanye ibinyoro ruzana mburugu

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